My Family Devotion

Mark 10:17-22

He Went Away Sad

17As Jesus started on His way, a man ran up and knelt before Him. “Good Teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to inherit eternal life?”

18“Why do you call Me good?” Jesus replied. “No one is good except God alone.

19You know the commandments: ‘Do not murder, do not commit adultery, do not steal, do not bear false witness, do not cheat others, honor your father and mother.’”

20“Teacher,” he replied, “all these I have kept from my youth.”

21Jesus looked at him, loved him, and said to him, “There is one thing you lack: Go, sell everything you own and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow Me.”

22But the man was saddened by these words and went away in sorrow, because he had great wealth.

Berean Standard Bible

Jesus is setting off down a road when a man comes running after him and drops onto his knees in the dirt. Running was undignified for someone of standing, and this one, as we learn at the end, has a great deal of standing. He could have sent a servant to arrange a meeting, but he came himself, at speed, and knelt in the road. His question is about a price.

Good Teacher, he asked, what must I do to inherit eternal life?

He wants to know the cost, which is a fair thing to want to know, and he has always been able to meet costs, so nothing in the way he asks suggests he expects this one to come out beyond his reach.

Jesus does not answer, at least not yet. He picks up the compliment instead and asks why the man called him good, since no one is good except God alone. People have argued over that sentence for centuries and we will not settle it here. What we can see is a teacher who will not let a polite word stay polite.

Then he lists commandments the man already knows, the ones about how you treat other people: murder, adultery, theft, false witness, cheating, honoring your father and mother. Most of those come out of the ten. One of them does not. Do not cheat others belongs to a different part of the law, where God forbids holding back the wages of a poor hired worker overnight. Jesus has slid that one into a conversation with a wealthy man without pointing at it.

The man does not hear it. All these I have kept from my youth, he answers, and he seems to mean it. Then Mark writes the line that makes the rest of this so hard to read, which is that Jesus looked at him, loved him, and said to him:

There is one thing you lack: Go, sell everything you own and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow Me.

Not pity, and not exasperation. Everything he asks of the man grows out of the way he is looking at him, including the part that empties the house. And the invitation at the end of it, come and follow me, is what Simon and Andrew heard by the lake and what Levi heard at his tax booth. They got up and went.

He does not. He walks away grieving, and Mark supplies the reason in a handful of words: he had great wealth. The man who came at a run leaves without him, and what sends him away is everything he owns.

How We Know

The list in verse 19 is the second half of the Ten Commandments, the ones about other people, with two changes to Exodus 20:12-16. Honoring parents moves from the front to the end.

And do not defraud is added, which is not in the Ten at all. Leviticus 19:13 is where it lives, alongside a command not to withhold a hired hand's wages overnight.

Adding that one to a list given to a wealthy man supports a deliberate choice rather than a slip, and Mark reports the addition without comment.

Questions

1 A man of standing runs down the road and kneels in the dirt. Why would that have been surprising?

AnswerRunning was undignified for someone of his rank, and he turns out to be a wealthy man. He could have sent a servant to fetch Jesus for him, or waited for a quieter moment. He came himself, at a run, and knelt in the road.

2 Jesus runs through the commandments the man knows. Is anything on that list not one of the ten?

AnswerYes. Do not cheat others comes from a different part of the law, the part about not holding back a poor worker's wages. Jesus put it in among the ten, in front of a rich man, and said nothing about having done it.

3 What is the one thing in this house you would find hardest to hand over? Now listen to what Jesus asks this man to hand over.

AnswerWhatever came to mind first is usually the honest answer. Jesus tells him to sell everything he owns and give it to the poor, with treasure in heaven offered in exchange. He named the exact thing the man could not part with.

4 What are the last words Jesus says to him, and who else has heard them?

AnswerCome, follow me. Simon and Andrew heard it by the lake and Levi heard it at his tax booth, and every one of them got up and went. This man hears the same words and walks the other way, grieving, because he had a great deal to lose.

What This Means for Us

He was not asked to give up anything wrong. The money was not stolen and he had not been cruel with it, which is exactly what makes this hard to hold at arm's length. By every visible measure he was a good man, and Jesus looked at him and loved him before he said a word about his money.

The one thing he lacked was the one thing he could not put down.

So the question for us is not whether we own something wicked. It is whether there is anything we could not let go of if he asked for it. Not would not: could not. Name it to yourself, and do not pretend the answer is nothing.

Prayer

Father, thank you that you look at people and love them before you tell them the truth. There is something each of us is holding that we would struggle to let go of, and you know what it is. Loosen our grip, gently, before we walk away sad. Amen.