Proverbs 25:1-28
A Word Fitly Spoken
1These are additional proverbs of Solomon, which were copied by the men of Hezekiah king of Judah:
2It is the glory of God to conceal a matter and the glory of kings to search it out.
3As the heavens are high and the earth is deep, so the hearts of kings cannot be searched.
4Remove the dross from the silver, and a vessel for a silversmith will come forth.
5Remove the wicked from the king’s presence, and his throne will be established in righteousness.
6Do not exalt yourself in the presence of the king, and do not stand in the place of great men;
7for it is better to be told, “Come up here!” than to be demoted in the presence of the prince. Even what you have seen with your own eyes,
8do not bring hastily to court. Otherwise, what will you do in the end when your neighbor puts you to shame?
9Argue your case with your neighbor without betraying another’s confidence,
10lest he who hears you bring shame upon you, and your infamy never go away.
11A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.
12Like an earring of gold or an ornament of fine gold is a wise man’s rebuke to a listening ear.
13Like the cold of snow in the time of harvest is a trustworthy messenger to those who send him; he refreshes the soul of his masters.
14Like clouds and wind without rain is the man who boasts of gifts never given.
15Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone.
16If you find honey, eat just what you need, lest you have too much and vomit it up.
17Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house, lest he grow weary and hate you.
18Like a club or sword or sharp arrow is a man who bears false witness against his neighbor.
19Like a broken tooth or a foot out of joint is confidence in a faithless man in time of trouble.
20Like one who removes a garment on a cold day or vinegar poured on a wound is one who sings songs to a heavy heart.
21If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink.
22For in so doing, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the LORD will reward you.
23As the north wind brings forth rain, so a backbiting tongue brings angry looks.
24Better to live on a corner of the roof than to share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
25Like cold water to a weary soul is good news from a distant land.
26Like a muddied spring or a polluted well is a righteous man who gives way to the wicked.
27It is not good to eat too much honey or to search out one’s own glory.
28Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who does not control his temper.
Berean Standard Bible
These sayings were copied by the men of Hezekiah, giving the chapter a setting in which wise words were gathered and preserved for a community. The opening says that it is God's glory to conceal a matter and a king's glory to search it out. Mystery is not always a defect; careful investigation can be an act of responsible leadership.
The chapter then describes the right place for a person before a ruler. Do not put yourself forward, but wait to be invited higher. This is not a demand for servile silence. It is a warning against grasping status and then being publicly displaced. Humility sees that honor is safer when it is received than when it is seized.
Several images show how timing and restraint make speech useful. A word spoken at the right time is like apples of gold in settings of silver. A faithful messenger refreshes the sender, while boasting about a gift not given is like clouds without rain. The image of a cool drink from a distant land captures how good news can restore a weary person.
The final sayings urge patience with enemies, kindness to the hungry, and self-control under pressure. The warning concerns prideful grasping, not obedience to a tyrant. Likewise, feeding an enemy leaves vengeance with God instead of letting hatred govern us. A person without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.
Questions
1 What can be glorious about a hidden matter?
AnswerSome matters deserve careful searching, and the work of understanding can be part of wise leadership rather than a failure of clarity.
2 Why should a person avoid seizing a place before a ruler?
AnswerGrasping status can end in public humiliation; humility waits for honor to be given rather than forcing it.
3 What is a well-timed word compared to?
AnswerIt is compared to gold apples in silver settings, a beautiful and valuable gift because it arrives when it can help.
4 What does kindness to an enemy accomplish?
AnswerIt meets a real need without allowing hatred to control our actions, leaving judgment with God rather than revenge with us.
What This Means for Us
Good communication requires more than having something true to say. We should consider timing, the listener's condition, and whether our words are meant to restore or display ourselves. The most accurate sentence can still be badly used.
Self-control gives love a chance to act. When pressure strips away our defenses, it shows whether anger is our master or whether we can still choose a faithful response.
Prayer
LORD, give us patience in seeking understanding and wisdom in choosing our words. Keep us from grasping for status, boasting without substance, or answering hatred with hatred. Make us steady under pressure. Amen.