2 Samuel 13:23-39
Absalom Takes Revenge
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23Two years later, when Absalom’s sheepshearers were at Baal-hazor near Ephraim, he invited all the sons of the king.
24And he went to the king and said, “Your servant has just hired shearers. Will the king and his servants please come with me?”
25“No, my son,” the king replied, “we should not all go, or we would be a burden to you.” Although Absalom urged him, he was not willing to go, but gave him his blessing.
26“If not,” said Absalom, “please let my brother Amnon go with us.” “Why should he go with you?” the king asked.
27But Absalom urged him, so the king sent Amnon and the rest of his sons.
28Now Absalom had ordered his young men, “Watch Amnon until his heart is merry with wine, and when I order you to strike Amnon down, you are to kill him. Do not be afraid. Have I not commanded you? Be courageous and valiant!”
29So Absalom’s young men did to Amnon just as Absalom had ordered. Then all the other sons of the king got up, and each one fled on his mule.
30While they were on the way, a report reached David: “Absalom has struck down all the sons of the king; not one of them is left!”
31Then the king stood up, tore his clothes, and lay down on the ground. And all his servants stood by with their clothes torn.
32But Jonadab, the son of David’s brother Shimeah, spoke up: “My lord must not think they have killed all the sons of the king, for only Amnon is dead. In fact, Absalom has planned this since the day Amnon violated his sister Tamar.
33So now, my lord the king, do not take to heart the report that all the sons of the king are dead. Only Amnon is dead.”
34Meanwhile, Absalom had fled. When the young man standing watch looked up, he saw many people coming down the road west of him, along the side of the hill. And the watchman went and reported to the king, “I see men coming from the direction of Horonaim, along the side of the hill.”
35So Jonadab said to the king, “Look, the sons of the king have arrived! It is just as your servant said.”
36And as he finished speaking, the sons of the king came in, wailing loudly. Then the king and all his servants also wept very bitterly.
37Now Absalom fled and went to Talmai son of Ammihud, the king of Geshur. But David mourned for his son every day.
38After Absalom had fled and gone to Geshur, he stayed there three years.
39And King David longed to go to Absalom, for he had been consoled over Amnon’s death.
Berean Standard Bible
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Two years pass after Tamar's violation. Absalom holds a sheep-shearing celebration and invites David and all the king's sons. David declines, but Absalom presses him to send Amnon and the other sons.
Absalom orders his servants to strike Amnon when he is drunk and tells them not to fear because he has given the order. The servants carry out Absalom’s order, and the other sons flee on their mules. A report reaches David that Absalom has killed them all. Later Jonadab corrects the report: only Amnon is dead.
Absalom flees to Geshur and remains there three years. David mourns for his son, and his longing for Absalom grows. The chapter holds together the horror of Tamar's unanswered wrong, the violence of revenge, and a father's divided grief.
Absalom's revenge grows out of Tamar's unanswered violation, but it is still a planned killing that takes advantage of Amnon's drunkenness. The false report that all the king's sons are dead shows how violence multiplies fear through a household. Tamar's harm has not been repaired; it has been joined by another death and another flight.
David's grief for Amnon and longing for Absalom reveal a father's divided heart, but affection cannot replace justice. A family can acknowledge why someone is furious without calling retaliation healing. When an earlier wrong has been ignored, seek protection and accountable judgment before anger chooses its own target.
Questions
1 What does Absalom arrange at the feast?
AnswerHe invites the king’s sons and orders his servants to kill Amnon when he is merry with wine. He tells them to take courage because he has commanded it, using his authority to draw them into his revenge.
2 Why is the first report especially devastating to David?
AnswerHe is told that all his sons have been killed. The false report magnifies the grief of the royal household before the truth—that Amnon alone is dead—arrives.
3 What happens after Amnon's death?
AnswerAbsalom flees to Geshur, while David mourns and longs for him. No one in the account has repaired the original wrong; the household is now carrying another violent loss.
4 How can a family respond to serious injustice without copying Absalom?
AnswerTake the harm seriously, protect the person who was hurt, and seek accountable justice through trustworthy authorities. Revenge may feel like control, but it spreads the damage and leaves more people grieving.
What This Means for Us
Absalom's anger is connected to a real and terrible wrong, but the text does not turn his revenge into justice. A true grievance can still be answered by a destructive act.
David's grief is also complicated. Loving Absalom does not make the killing acceptable, and grief over a son does not erase the harm done to Tamar or Amnon's responsibility for it.
When a family faces betrayal or abuse, separate three tasks: protecting the vulnerable, telling the truth, and deciding what accountability requires. Do not ask revenge to do the work of justice.
Prayer
LORD, meet families where grief and anger have become tangled. Protect those who are vulnerable, restrain retaliation, and guide us toward truthful accountability that does not create another circle of harm. Amen.
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